Dumped, Dumpee, Duped? Call it what you will…

Relationships…who needs em?


Yet, we all do right?

If you are not of the A variety you usually fall into the B category, dumper, duper…sleazebag. Fear not, there is the beauty of karma, irony & fate.

Are these common situations any different in the universe of Writing?

The idea behind American Writers was to expose the underbelly of the journey, our trials, our frustrations, our moments of complete failure, scratches, and occasional success. Instead of being amongst the slew of Writers who claim to be Writers and know everything about Writing …so very much more (yes, I used-so, very & much) than the other 3 gazillion and 4 Writers  (no supporting research data) in the world of Writerdom.

Jeesh, Sally calm down. Not only do I hear you, I feel you sister, but 1st let me bow.

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So what’s the deal with critique groups? Either they are of a higher echelon that you are unworthy of attending or members suck what they can until the group no longer serves their purpose and move on. To where? I believe we still inhabit the same plot structure.

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Ummm, really?

The greatest advice is “be your own cheerleader,” because we have to, yet, there are those few who fall victim to their own great marketing strategies. Even the humble play at being humble to get continued positive strokes. Yikes…

The brilliance of the “CG” situation is enlightening. We all falsely believe WE are the better Writer. And, being amongst the ton is helpful. We are different people, voices, and points of view. Each lends a hand in improving each other in whichever state we find our current WIP. Work in progress, use your words, acronyms don’t make you sound smarter and it’s freaking annoying.

Is there a graceful way to ditch a peer group and move on? Without using flowery bullshit that grownups can decipher? And exactly what is being said to those left behind? I rock, you suck, later dudes.

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We can see you, we have this thing called the internet.

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Brilliant, NOT mine, #FML

Twenty-eight months ago I began the quest for my personal holy grail. I’ve met great people, industry professionals, received the worst advice given to mankind (that I inhaled) and spent thousands of dollars as every other would-be, wanna-be Writing genius. I have a collection of 4 blogs, 2 of which believe I am dead, too many social media accounts to keep up with and am the proud owner of multiple pen names. I have walked away from critique groups and, recently, have been walked out on.

Bound to happen, right?

The decerning piece is when I give my word to writers who have asked something if me, I follow through to the best of my ability and while I don’t have the whole shit and caboodle figured out, I will.

Only the best-Truly-Sour grapes and all

Write On-<3 Jess

8 thoughts on “Dumped, Dumpee, Duped? Call it what you will…

  1. Wow! Does this ever ring true! I have one critique partner that has survived from the longest group I ever attended. (The group imploded when one woman decided she was so much better than the rest of us and another followed Ms.Thing, and then a couple people died. A few had left in the years that preceded. Joe, the one armed western writer. Ginny the mom who just wanted to get away from her husband and kids. Anne Marie who was just part of RWA to see and be seen.)

    Sigh. I also think the bigger the group, the less effective the group. Too many cooks–especially when everyone has a different genre,etc.

    I guess Will Shakespeare had something in “To your own self be true.” Well, that and a lot of reading and networking and, if you’re lucky, at least one good critique partner.

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  2. There are so many points that are running through my head
    Most of which are that in my case a lot of people don’t understand
    Where I’m coming from
    Hence their critique
    Just leaves a
    bad taste
    In my mouth
    As Sheldon Always

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  3. I hear what you are saying. However, I do believe a good critique group would be helpful during the process. (BTW, I’m still looking for a good one.) Since the idea is to get better at the craft, walking away from a group of energy vampires is a good idea. On the flip side, participating with a group of newbies can be rewarding for a more advanced writer so long as the writer understands the limitations of the group. That’s why I use the magic 8-ball to make important decisions.


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